Being a single mom comes with challenges that only a few understand. You’re the provider, the protector, the emotional rock — and often, you’re doing it all alone. But you also have something incredibly powerful: the chance to be your daughter’s greatest source of strength and love. I will share some personal experience that I hope will help you:

🌱 1. Find the Balance Between Strength and Warmth

The hardest part for me, as a single mother, was finding the balance between being firm enough to raise strong, respectful children and being gentle enough so they could always feel a mother’s warmth. It’s not easy to get that balance right, but it’s not impossible. What matters most is being there for your children, so they always feel seen, supported, and never alone.

🧠 2. Understand That Girls Are Different

Raising girls is a completely different experience from raising boys. From how they think and learn, to the way they communicate and view the world — it all requires a unique kind of understanding. Girls can be strong, but they also need a lot of love and respect. You can’t just speak to them without emotion — they feel everything. Always try to choose the right moment and prepare yourself for deep conversations. Sometimes you might think, ‘Oh no, not again… I don’t have the strength to go through this one more time.’ But you will — because you’re their mother, and your love always finds a way.

💸 3. You’re a Magician, But Don’t Disappear

There’s no need to even mention financial struggles — we all know they’re part of the journey. You’ll often feel like a magician, trying to make everything work. Clothes and shoes won’t matter much to you, as long as you can manage the household and take care of your children’s needs, especially your daughter’s. That’s the way mothers often think, but it’s not entirely right. We, as mothers, are much simpler than our children may realize, but that doesn’t mean we should neglect our own needs. We deserve to feel good and look good. We just don’t need 20 pairs of shoes or 10 pairs of white pants to prove it. But we must take care of ourselves, too.

🗣️ 4. Let Her Make Choices — But Always Be There

Your daughter doesn’t need a perfect mom. She needs a mom who listens, hugs, and shows up — even on tired days. Just saying, “I’m here, you can talk to me anytime,” creates a safe place she will return to, even when she’s grown. She will make her own choices, sometimes without sharing every detail with you, and that is perfectly fine.

❤️ 5. Accept Her Exactly As She Is

Very important one: Never compare her to her siblings, cousins, friends, or even to yourself. Never, ever. She already knows she’s different. You don’t need to remind her. She’ll understand more as she grows, but right now — while she’s young and fragile — what she needs most is your love and full acceptance, just as she is.

You’re already doing more than you think. Being there for your daughter doesn’t mean being perfect — it means loving her, showing up, and believing in her, no matter what.
You’re her safe place. You’re her home and be proud off yourself <3.

More posts are coming for single mothers, because after doing my research — and living this reality for over 15 years — I’ve realized we’re often overlooked, as if we don’t even exist as a real category. And that needs to change.

So my dears, stay safe and take care of yourself, you are doing everything that you can, and that is just awesome<3.